Romans 12:8 – If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
Romans 12:21 – Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
When I was younger, if I ever had an argument with a friend or someone be nasty to me, I’d come home to my mum and tell her everything. I’d get flustered and angry and annoyed all over again in telling the story. Afterwards I’d look at her and say, “well, what do I do back?!”
She’d always respond with, “oh forget about it and if they say something again, just be nice back to them!”
It was the most frustrating response a mother could ever give. But as I’ve grown up, I’ve started to understand that when you live frustrated with someone else, carrying the weight of hurt, bitterness and unforgiveness around with you, you’re only hurting yourself more. This goes for every situation and every person – regardless of what they’ve done. Your problem against them is still your problem and not theirs.
I’ve learned (and still learning, don’t get me wrong) that life is so much easier and enjoyable when you let things go. As hard as it is, forgiving the people who have hurt you will lift a weight from your shoulders and bring a peace to your heart. Even those people who are still hurting you. But remember that you don’t need to keep them close in your life to continue hurting you forever – you can forgive, let go and walk away.
Pray for God to make a way – to help you in this. He wants you to live at peace even more than you do.