Galatians 5:16-17 – So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit is what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want.
When someone offends you in whatever shape or form, it’s easy to want to tell people all about it. You maybe don’t always mean it harshly, but you feel the need to vent – to get it off your chest.
In doing that, the people listening will most probably begin to think less of the offender. They will form an opinion and then they may join you in talking negatively about a person.
This usually leads to you getting more frustrated by the situation. The more you talk about it, the more you live the situation over and over and inevitably the angrier/more upset you become. As well as this, it causes the person you’re with to sin through them also talking about the person – perhaps causing a divide in their relationship with the offender as well as the divide you have with them.
All of this is caused by you gratifying the desires of your flesh. It usually gets you nowhere other than a good gossip and feeling more emotional.
Another way of dealing with the situation, is to take your frustration/hurt/anger straight to God. Pray about it – asking Him to deal with the situation, and most importantly the restlessness in your heart. Ask for peace, and guidance on how to react.
Through doing this, you will feel peace about the situation and the offender.
You will have honoured God, by valuing unity over the temporary pleasure of gossiping and gaining sympathy from others.
I know all of this is easier said than done, but it will change the way you think and the way you react. It will draw you closer to God, and He will strengthen you in the process.
This is something I’m trying to work on in myself. When I get offended, I have a couple of people I feel the need to go talk about it to. But in fact, it benefits no-one at all.
Don’t underestimate the power of taking your hurt and frustration straight to God. He’s the only One who can bring real, true peace and resolution to you and the other person.