This blog post is written with every female (young and old) in mind.
There aren’t many things in life that annoy me. I have my pet peeves here and there, of course. But few things get me seriously steaming-hot angry. Other than this one thing. What I’m going to write about today, is something that really, really gets me fired up.
The way women can so easily tear one another down.
Raise your hand if you have ever felt judged by another woman.
Keep your hand raised if you have been spoken about behind your back by other women.
And keep that very same hand raised if, because of those past experiences (however few or many), you now expect to feel intimidated/belittled by almost every woman you may have to encounter.
I imagine the majority of you had your hand raised for all three of those statements.
It’s become a sad reality for us as women, to expect cattiness from other women. We expect to be gossiped about. We expect to be judged on how we look, what we wear or how we act.
The question I was asking myself for a really long time is why are women more bitchy than men? It’s only within the past year or so that I have been able to put an answer to that question. It’s actually quite simple – women tend to be more insecure than men. And from my experience, the most insecure people tend to be the most intimidating people.
Now I’ve decided not to babble on for too long about bitchiness/catiness/nastiness etc. We have all been there and we all know what it feels like. Instead I want to write about why we should change this.
I firmly believe that there’s something powerful in women uniting – women building one another up. And that’s why it’s such a struggle for us to get along. Because the devil loves to do his best work in what he knows God can perform the best miracles in. Don’t you see that the devil wants us to be bitchy? He wants nothing more than for us to hate each other! He loves it when women give other women a dirty look. He fills our minds with insecure thoughts, tearing away at our self-worth. He plants gossip, tempting us to speak about one another. He feeds us lie after lie, sitting back and watching at how we tear one another down without even realising the consequences.
This needs to stop!
It’s time for us to lift each other up. It’s time for us to see what God can do in our faith-filled female friendships. We need to speak life and truth into one another when we’re feeling insecure. We need to be able to approach one another in our moments of need, unafraid to ask for prayer in whatever struggles we are facing.
We all know what it’s like to feel worthless, useless and alone – so why can’t we stand together in helping other women find their worth? Why can’t we be a good friend without strings attached? Why can’t we be there to support one another without any questions asked? Why can’t we welcome the new girl, who clearly doesn’t know anyone, with open arms? Why can’t we compliment or encourage one another? Why can’t we smile to the stranger on the street?
God never destined women to judge each other. It isn’t in His will for us to exclude the odd one out. Christ placed worth and value on every single one of us when He died on that cross, no matter what our past, present or future looks like. It’s time that we honour and respect each other for who they are. Regardless of their age, looks, abilities or insecurities. It’s time that women build each other up instead of tearing each other down.