I’m sure that the majority of us go through some sort of rejection or break-up at some stage in our lives. If that’s you right now – here are a few of my top tips. I like to call them the 5 C’s for overcoming heart break…
1) Cut the contact
This is honestly the hardest step. I apologise for making it the first one, but it truly has to be done. Block, delete, ignore – do whatever you can to get the heart-breaker out of your life ASAP. I ensure you that you will never fully get over somebody until you do. Don’t try to be friends “because we know each other so well and we don’t want to lose each other”. Trust me when I say that it will only lead to disappointment and further rejection down the line.
2) Cry it out
Spend a whole week in bed crying. Eat everything and anything. Watch the Kardashians all day long. Whine to your mum about what a waste of space that person was.
The important part of this step is that you really get it all out. Don’t allow your feelings and hurt to build up. Stop pretending that you’re okay when you’re not. It’s okay to cry. Once you’re ready, move on to the next step and leave all of the hurt in the past.
3) Change your focus
I think the hardest part of getting over somebody is dealing with loneliness and ultimately, a whole lot of extra time. It hurts to think about how much you invested in that person and then suddenly they’re gone. This is why you need to change your focus. You need to find a hobby, my friend. You need to make some new friends. Keep yourself busy so that you’re not sat by yourself longing for what you used to have.
BUT, don’t find yourself a new boyfriend/girlfriend. Whatever you do, don’t do that. Never try to replace somebody with someone new. You’ll only be fooling yourself – and probably hurting someone else in the process.
Believe in yourself and who you are. Don’t allow yourself to turn into a puddle of pity – you’re more than that. Yes, you may have been hurt and you’re feeling rejected, but this doesn’t mean it’s game over. This simply means it’s time to turn the page and start a new chapter.
Know that the quality of your life doesn’t depend on your relationship status. You don’t need to be in a relationship to be happy.
This was the step that helped me the most. I clung onto Him like you wouldn’t believe. I read this verse every day – The Lord hears his people when they call to Him. He rescues them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the broken hearted. He rescues those whose spirits are crushed (Psalm 34:18).The only one who can truly fix a broken heart is the One who made it.