I’m struggling with today’s post. I keep thinking about my followers and I stress out about what I should and shouldn’t be saying. But I’ve decided that I’m just going to be honest with you today. I have it on my heart to talk about a topic that I’ve kind of been avoiding. For the whole day I’ve been trying to think of how to make this sound good, you know? Like how can I add some wit to this… How can I make my past self not look so desperate? But I can feel God telling me to get over myself and just be honest. So here’s me being honest.
I wrote a Prince Charming Checklist a few weeks ago. Today I want to expand on that. In the first paragraph of that post I talk about how I wish I could have given myself that checklist. To be really honest, I think most girls need that checklist. We crave love. It sounds desperate but it’s the truth. We idolize the idea of the perfect fairy-tale. We believe that once we find the one, a massive weight will be lifted from our shoulders and we’ll finally be happy.
Because of this, a lot of us fall at the first hurdle. The first guy who has a cute smile and looks in our direction. The first guy who gives us that attention that we’ve wanted. For some of us, that first guy comes along when we’re 13. For me, that guy came along when I was 18. And that guy broke my heart. And then he broke it again. And again. He kept breaking it because I kept giving it. I never took it out of his hands.
Girls, believe me when I say that there is a Prince Charming out there for you. But you also need to believe me when I say that there are a lot of toads out there too. And if you keep giving the toads your time, how are you ever going to have space in your life for your Prince Charming? If the door to your life is closed because of a toad who doesn’t serve you, who doesn’t love you and who doesn’t make you his Princess… How is your real Prince Charming ever going to gallop into your life on his white horse?
The best advice I could ever give you is to throw the toad in the bin. Stop wasting your tears on him. Move on to something better. You deserve so much better.
How do I know if a guy is a toad or a Prince Charming? You just know. If you have to convince yourself that he is the one, he’s not the one. If he makes you cry more than he makes you smile, he’s a toad. Also, trust your loved ones when they say a boy is bad news.
So when is Prince Charming coming? He’s on his way. Whilst your waiting, make sure that you’re becoming the best you possible. Are you the one that your one wants? Work on yourself and your relationship with God as much as you can because when he comes along, it won’t be about you anymore. It’ll be about both of you and the direction you’re both heading.
Your loneliness now is monumentally better than your loneliness with a man in the house who has no intention of loving and serving you like Christ served the Church, no intention of pouring himself out for you and the lives and souls of your children. Jesus is enough. Trust Him when he says that.