I’ve had this post in mind ever since my honeymoon – a mini-wedding-bible for any bride to read a couple of months before her wedding day. These ten tips are the things I feel are the most important and beneficial things that I took on board for my own wedding day. Let’s think of them as the ten commandments for your wedding.
ONE – Don’t stress.
This will probably be the most special day of your whole life. Don’t ruin it with worries, anxiety and unnecessary tears. By all means be organised, but don’t worry yourself into such a frantic that the wedding has become more of a stress than a joy. When it comes to the day of the wedding, have no worries whatsoever. Enjoy every second.
The truth is that something is bound to go wrong, but it makes no difference to you on your special day because all you’ll care about is the fact that you married the love of your life and all the special people in your world were there to see it.
TWO – Delegate!
A common mistake a bride makes is planning the whole wedding by herself. Don’t forget that it’s your fiancé’s wedding too. Share the load, girlfriend! Give some jobs to him, your parents, siblings, bridesmaids and groomsmen. This will make the whole experience way more enjoyable for you.
Think of friends with talents! My bridesmaid and her husband, Carley and Mark love to sing (and they’re good at it), so we asked them to sing us down the aisle and lead our worship.
THREE – Relax the day before.
Make sure everything is done and dusted well in advance. Don’t leave yourself some important tasks to complete the day before. This is the day when you need to sit back, relax and get truly excited for your wedding day.
Perhaps schedule yourself a mani/pedi to help with the relaxing process.
FOUR – Bring an emergency sewing kit.
Thankfully a guest at my wedding was prepared for this one. The strap of my dress snapped in the car on the way to my wedding (total nightmare), but my bridesmaid came to the rescue with her sewing skills.
Give someone in your bridal party the responsibility of looking after a sewing kit and having it on hand in case anything happens. It’s better to be safe than sorry.
FIVE – Focus on what’s important.
The thing about planning a wedding is that we tend to get a bit carried away. We want to have it all! One of the best things Bradley and I did when we first got engaged was to sit down and decide what’s important. For me, it was my dress and the location. For him, it was the photos. So we really focused on those three things – we put more effort, time and budget towards them to make them extra special.
Anything else, we were prepared to be slightly more stingy on.
SIX – Have time in the day to ‘take it all in’.
My friend advised me on this one and I’m so glad she did. The day itself flashes by so quickly and before you know it, it’s over. Have a moment for just you and your husband to take it all in. Bradley and I did this after the meal, before the evening. We went to our room to drop off my bouquet and change my shoes, and simply took ten minutes to catch up with no-one else wanting our attention.
SEVEN – Make sure your photographers know what you want.
When it comes to your photographers, communication is key. What I loved about ours is that they took the time to meet with us, chat with us and then take an engagement shoot with us. This meant that we could tell them exactly what we wanted. They knew what was important to us and they made sure they got those shots.
EIGHT – Be prepared for rain.
I was in extreme denial about rain happening on our wedding day. I convinced myself that it would never happen to me. But it did. For pretty much 75% of the day, it was pouring it down with torrential rain. We were so unprepared. Thankfully my mum’s friend dropped off some pretty umbrellas on the morning. And even more thankfully, our photographers had a plan B up their sleeve.
I would 100% advise you have an indoor location in mind to take pretty photos just in case the rain sneaks up on you on your special day.
NINE – Video?
A videographer is so expensive, but having some clips of your special day is absolutely priceless. Our photographers surprised us with a wedding video, and a couple of our friends filmed some important parts of the day too.
So if booking a professional is totally out of your budget, assign some people to film certain parts of your day simply so you have them to look back on. They don’t need to be fancy at all.
TEN – Book a honeymoon!
In the beginning of our planning process, I suggested that Bradley and I use our honeymoon budget for the wedding instead. I’m now so thankful he said no. He actually insisted that we splurge on our honeymoon! He booked it himself and surprised me at the airport as to where we were going. Those 10 days away I now hold so dearly to my heart.
If you think about it, your wedding day is only one day. But your honeymoon lasts for so much longer! So make it truly special and memorable. That time away with your new husband is totally priceless.