Bradley, my mum and I went for a meeting last Friday at the venue we had in mind for the reception. The meeting was to clarify the smaller details – we had a long, long list of annoying questions we needed answers for.
Let me tell you more about the venue – it’s my mum and dad’s church, which is a really modern building with a couple of big open rooms to choose from for the reception.
As it’s not an “official” wedding venue, it meant that we would have to bring in a few outside people to make the wedding work, i.e food caterer and decorator.
The price of the venue was amazing, which is why we wanted it. But as the meeting progressed, we realised that those extra costs were really starting to add up. More than we had expected them to.
Due to the venue being a church, there wasn’t really a hotel nearby that our guests could book themselves into, only a Holiday Inn a taxi drive away.
There were also quite a few rules, meaning we would have to compromise things such as music volume, having to set up and pack down ourselves, the time arrived at the venue, the time we left the venue and the biggest compromise (for me, anyway) was not having candles!
All of these smaller niggles finally built up and made one massive nudge for me and I just blurted out “I don’t want this!”. My mum and Bradley gave me blank stares for a couple of minutes, but after explaining how I really, honestly wanted my wedding they agreed that this venue just wasn’t it.
We did a bit of googling in the car and decided to head 10 minutes down the road to a hotel we had discarded from our list of possible venues due to price.
After a 15 minute tour of the hotel, we all knew that this was exactly what we wanted. And, amazingly after sitting down and calculating costs we realised if we simply moved our desired date a couple of days along and changed our menu slightly, the cost of this hotel would work out exactly the same as the previous venue (including the added catering and decorating costs)! Not only did it work out price wise, but it was a prettier and way less stressful venue – we wouldn’t have to do any of the set up or pack down. And I can have as many candles as my little heart desires!
So if you’re wondering, our wedding reception will now be held in a 13th century barn (decked out with as many fairy-lights and candles as possible, obviously) which is attached to a hotel where our guests can book themselves in for the night. But Bradley and I have already taken the suite, sorry!
I realised that just because our budget is small, doesn’t mean that we have to compromise on every single aspect of our wedding. Our tight budget doesn’t actually limit us as much as we thought it should. The compromise of the day of the wedding made a huge difference – and that’s all it took. My wedding dream lives on and I’m more excited than ever!
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